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Desire

Sexual desire can give pleasure and happiness; it is usually perceived as something very positive and it is linked to physical pleasure. 

Sexual desire can be associated with fantasies, people, objects or different types of situations. Sexual desire is individual and has its own personal expression. The desire to have sex varies from one person to another and sex drive fluctuates over time.

Low sex drive

An evident change in sex drive can be a sign of some sort of problem with your body, emotional life, relationships or other aspects of your life. Sometimes the cause can be found in your life situation; sometimes medical attention may be needed to see if your hormone levels are too low, for example, or if you are taking medicine that can affect your sex drive.

Some people feel no sexual desire at all and do not want sex, or they feel that they don't want to include other people in their sexuality. Some of these people call themselves asexual.

You can contact us if you feel you have problems with your sex drive. At our clinic, support can be provided by our counsellors and by a doctor.

 

Excessively high sex drive

Sexual arousal can come on suddenly, and you cannot always choose when you feel aroused. Some people can feel they have too much sex drive and find it difficult to control. The way in which you masturbate, or how often you have sex or look at pornography can feel like a strain, and it may affect your wellbeing and everyday life. Sometimes this is called "sexual addiction" or hypersexuality.

You may be aroused by something you don't want to be turned on by, or you may be aroused at the wrong time or by the wrong people.

If you feel that you are not in control of your sex drive, or if you feel your sexual arousal is causing you problems in your life or everyday activities, you can turn to us for support and counselling.

Last updated: 3/24/2015